) think we’re just FWBs, and want to keep it that way?
Just because you’ve been seeing someone for a certain amount of time doesn’t mean you’re obliged to become girlfriends, and having only just met someone doesn’t mean you can’t (although it’s probably worthwhile factoring how much or little you know someone into your thought processes and expectations here.) Knowing you’re compatible as lovers but not as capital-G-girlfriends, cohabitees or wives is just fine actually, as long as you’re both on the same page.
Even if you’re both sure you want to be officially "together," it’s worthwhile figuring out what this entails for you both.
If it isn’t, that’s fine too – the key here is to figure out where you’re both coming from and what works best for the two of you without making value judgements.These are all pretty significant questions in terms of how our lives work, and it’s worthwhile discussing them and ironing out any conflicts before you’re having an argument because she’s just been out with her friends for the 3rd night this week and you were expecting a cosy night in with Netflix.This often gets assumed -- although in my experience -- queer circles can be much more open to alternative relationship structures than straight ones. ’ is a pretty significant question, but if the answer’s ‘no’ that isn’t necessarily a bad thing.No one ever taught us the rules about how to relate to women on a romantic level.We have to struggle through the process of trial and error to figure out where to meet new people in the gay community, or what to say to start up a conversation with someone we like.