Two people are drawn together to share time, experiences and each other in the quest to satisfy "the need to know." The challenge for Christian parents is "how can we continue to provide for the needed supervision and guidance for our children within the confines of our cultural settings? First dates were events and normally both parties treated them as something special.Regrettably or not, these experiences of yesterday's youth may be permanently archived in some remote cranial recess, never to be relived or eagerly shared with a son or daughter. Just as at one time couples were betrothed without the benefit of formal introductions as we knew them.When you don’t carve out time to spend with your teen, you’re communicating that you’re not interested in them, and they internalize that message, consciously or unconsciously. Letting your teen’s activities take top priority for your family.The number of parents who wrap their lives/schedules around their teen’s activities is mind-boggling to me. I know many parents want to provide their children with experiences and opportunities they never had growing up, but something’s gone wrong with our understanding of family and parenting when our teen’s wants/”needs” are allowed to overwhelm the family’s day-to-day routines. The devil-may-care ambivalence that once defined the teenage subculture has now taken root as parents shrug their shoulders, ask, “What can you do?Despite the fact that teens are transitioning into more independence and often carry a “I don’t need/want you around” attitude, they are longing for the securing and grounding that comes from consistent quality time.Going for walks together, grabbing a coffee in order to “catch up,” going to the movies together, etc., all all simple investments that teens secretly want and look forward to.Over the next several days I’ll be expanding on each of these in succession, but for now, here is my top ten mistakes Christian parents of teens make: 10. A lot of parents make the mistake of not spending time with their teens because they assume their teens don’t want to spend time with them!
I could go on, and if you’re a part of almost any kind of Christian community, you probably can too.
And no one will truly love you if they do not love God more than they love you.
The first step in dating should always be the step of faith we take toward our Lord, Savior, and greatest Treasure, King Jesus.
Today's teens are more comfortable with a social arena defined not by tentative and nervous "first phone calls" but rather, by informal and spontaneous gatherings of like-minded and comfortable peer groups.
Many teens enjoy "going out" with a group of friendsl Hanging out at a friend's house and watching videos or talking, going to the mall, whatever the event it is often done as a group of teens who are friends, not couples.