While many don’t articulate it, most of us crave emotional intimacy.We want someone we can share with on a deep level, someone we trust who will be gentle yet honest with us.by Scott Croft Before continuing with this column, please review the preamble included at the beginning of Scott's first article in this series, "Biblical Dating: An Introduction." * * * A promise is a promise.Last time I appeared on this site, I said that I would lay out my position on biblical dating and then turn it over to all of you to determine the rest of the column's topics by your questions. As many of you will know from the Boundless blog, The Line, the last piece generated many posts and comments, from the challenging to the supportive, the general to the specific.That’s why allowing yourself to be vulnerable with someone else is so important. What if the one person you have feelings for has a lot of intimacy issues? Many people have heard of intimacy issues, but they don’t actually know what it is.For most of us, these problems don’t exist because we enjoy getting close to people and sharing ourselves with them. If someone has intimacy issues, they share very little about themselves.They don’t divulge stories of their childhood and they can even hold you at arms-length, not allowing you to get too close physically, either.
Eric and Jennys dating relationship had started out innocently? Soon afterward they broke up, discouraged and hurt. But both came to him separately and expressed emotional trauma and guilt over past memories. Some of us had made the same mistake or watched it happen in the lives of our friends. We wanted the pastor to tell us what we were supposed to do instead.Why am I talking to you about shopping carts when this book is about dating?Well, I recall my bad luck with grocery carts because many times Ive experienced a similar battle of wills with dating.In addition to what all of you saw on the blog, I have received dozens of questions and comments in e-mails, which I and the folks at Boundless have culled through to see what the most pressing questions seem to be.Judging from both frequency and "passion," the most pressing questions arising from the last piece involve physical involvement — which I'm about to cover, initiation of relationships (especially the bit about involving the woman's father), and the practical details of how one of these relationships works.